๐๐ชI love you all but I'm sorry. I know the reason, it's not an easy to understand reason, or a good reason, and it's not positive or the solution to the problem. Plus I'm not qualified professionally, or safe & protected enough, to speak of it publicly.
๐๐We just need everyone to keep calling it out publicly, and fighting against racism, white supremacy & fascism in power, locally & everywhere. My heart is broken and I can't do much but I will continue to spread the word and give support.
First: This is a screenshot of an article from between 1978 - 80 by Carl Carl C. Bell MD. None of the theories took hold back then because of who was controlling the academic structure at the time of course.
- In Psychology Today by J. Luke Wood, Ph.D. with "The Psychology of Racial Equity"
Carl Bell (1978, 1980) introduced the notion of narcissistic racism, a type of narcissism where racism is an indicator of an individual's personality disorder.
And now this video: "๏ผฌ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ฝ ๏ผณ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ผด๏ผจ๏ผฉ๏ผณ ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ผท๏ผจ๏ผน ๏ผข๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ผฐ๏ฝ ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ผจ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ผข๏ฝ ๏ฝ ๏ฝ ๏ผด๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ฝ ๏ผข๏ฝ ๏ผฐ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ "
- ๏ผค๏ฝ. ๏ผฌ'๏ฝ ๏ผข๏ฝ๏ฝ ๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ผค๏ฝ๏ฝ๏ฝ
Dr. L goes into the history of policing in the United States, focusing on the origins of policing. He touches on slavery and its impact on African American history. This analysis includes commentary on important moments in American history, including civil rights history.
Narcissism is part of an individual’s personality organization and is the way people maintain a positive self-image, regulate their self-esteem, and manage their needs for affirmation and validation from others. It is normal for people to possess a healthy amount of self-esteem where they are accepting of their strengths and limitations while maintaining a positive self-image. It is normal and healthy for individuals to seek adaptive and realistic ways to improve their self-concept and feel good about who they are.
Clinical narcissism, on the other hand, reflects unhealthy strategies to cope with disappointments and threats to positive self-image. Persistent difficulty in this area is what typically constitutes a clinical diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Clinicians diagnose NPD when a person meets 5 or more of the following DSM-5 criteria:
A grandiose sense of self-importance
Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Beliefs of being special and unique
A need for excessive admiration
A sense of entitlement
Taking advantage of others for personal gain
A lack of empathy
Arrogant and haughty behaviours or attitudes
How is Clinical Narcissism Expressed?
When we think of narcissism, we usually picture someone who displays narcissistic grandiosity, or a pattern of entitled, domineering, and attention-seeking behaviour. These traits align with certain aspects of NPD, including excessive self-enhancement strategies, diminished empathy, and a disagreeable demeanor. However, impairment in the ability to regulate the emotions and behaviours associated with one’s needs for self-enhancement is at the root of pathological narcissism – understood as narcissistic vulnerability. Narcissistic vulnerability is characterized by a fragile self-image and low self-esteem reliant on external validation. It involves heightened sensitivity to threats to self-concept, leading to anxiety, helplessness, persistent negative emotions, distrust of others, and social withdrawal. Clinical narcissists oscillate between states of grandiosity and vulnerability. As the two occur in tandem, there are no officially recognized subtypes of clinical narcissism or NPD.
The representation of narcissism in the DSM-5 has received scrutiny for describing primarily grandiose and overt manifestations while overlooking the important and inevitable vulnerable aspects. Recent research suggests that vulnerability can be conceptualized as “primary narcissism”, as internalised feelings of shame, low self-worth, and difficulty processing criticism or failure are at the core of all narcissistic behaviours. Genuine grandiosity that is not an attempt to conceal feelings of low self-worth may be better understood as a manifestation of psychopathy.[1]
Moreover, narcissism can be expressed overtly (i.e., behaviours, attitudes, and emotions) or covertly (i.e., internal cognitions, motives, needs, and feelings). People often incorrectly associate overt expressions with grandiosity and covert expressions with vulnerability. However, individuals with NPD tend to exhibit both overt and covert grandiose and vulnerable traits at different times or even simultaneously. For example, overtly arrogant behaviour can mask underlying feelings of inadequacy and vulnerability.
How Can We Identify Narcissism?
Recognizing the signs that someone may have narcissistic tendencies, regardless of severity, can help us understand and address them with empathy and accuracy.
Key characteristics of narcissism include:
Self-perception and Emotional Regulation Challenges
An exaggerated sense of self-importance, often coupled with feelings of insecurity, shame, or fear of being exposed as a failure.
A relentless drive for perfection and external validation to uphold a fragile self-image.
Extreme sensitivity to criticism or rejection, leading to defensive behaviours like withdrawal, aggression, or projection of blame.
Interpersonal Challenges
Decreased social inhibitions, allowing for displays of entitlement and unreasonable expectations for favourable treatment or recognition.
Difficulty with empathy and valuing the needs and emotions of others, which may manifest as controlling, manipulative, or dismissive behaviours.
Trouble maintaining friendships and relationships, leading to increased isolation over time.
Emotional and Behavioural Dysregulation
Persistent negative affectivity, such as depression, anxiety, or anhedonia, while often denying any feelings of depression or weakness.
High emotional reactivity, including intense anger, embarrassment, jealousy, or mood instability, especially when self-enhancement and reassurance needs are unmet.
Poor impulse control and increased thrill-seeking behaviour.
There are some complications that may arise with an NPD diagnosis that are important to be aware of:
NPD can occur along with other conditions such as substance use disorders, mood and anxiety disorders, and other personality disorders. This can make it difficult to accurately diagnose NPD.
A higher risk of death by suicide.
A greater presence of hostility and aggression, increasing interpersonal difficulties and creating challenges with treatment.
What Are the Risk Factors for Developing NPD?
Early childhood experiences including parental overvaluation, excessive admiration, praise, and beliefs that the child has exceptional abilities have been associated with narcissism in adulthood. Conversely, adverse experiences in early childhood including parental coldness, parental abuse, feeling rejected, and a fragile ego during childhood may also predict narcissism in adulthood.
Narcissistic individuals may be genetically predisposed to developing the disorder.
NPD is more likely to occur among individuals experiencing other personality disorders including antisocial personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, and schizotypal personality disorder.
Research demonstrates that the prevalence of narcissism tends to be higher among young adults relative to older adults.
NPD is typically more common among men than women, with research finding a lifetime prevalence of 7.7% in men and 4.8% in women.[2]
How Can You Support a Loved One with NPD?
Supporting a loved one with narcissism is a compassionate goal, but it can also be emotionally challenging. Here are some ways to provide support while prioritizing your own well-being:
Educate yourself about NPD to understand the nuances of the disorder and possible treatment or symptom management options.
Communicate to your loved one with NPD that you accept them. Remind yourself that their behaviours are a result of the pain they are experiencing due to their mental illness. Making them feel loved and supported can help guide them towards the proper treatment.
Encourage your loved one to seek treatment but recognize that you cannot force change. While it can be frustrating if they are resistant to help, remember that their behaviour is their responsibility, not yours.
Try to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Individuals with NPD may rely on others to meet their needs or expectations in ways that can feel overwhelming. Clearly express what you are willing and able to do and stay consistent in respecting your own limits.
Make sure to take care of your own needs and mental health. Avoid letting your loved one’s disorder take over your life. Try your best to maintain other social connections and support systems. Consider attending therapy or joining a support group.
People with NPD have an increased risk of suicide. If you notice signs of withdrawal or suspect your loved one is considering self-harm, address your concerns directly and compassionately. If they are in immediate danger, contact emergency services right away.
How Can Psychology Help?
There is no standardized treatment that exists for narcissism, but psychologists can help individuals with narcissism manage their symptoms with psychotherapy. Psychotherapy, or talk therapy, is a long-term approach to treatment focused on building a strong patient-therapist relationship.
Transference-focused therapy (TFT) is a twice-weekly approach that focuses on the patient’s feelings towards the therapist. This method proposes that people with narcissism separate positive and negative self-perceptions as a defence mechanism. The goal is to help them understand their emotions and integrate these self-perceptions in a healthy way.
Schema-focused therapy aims to help patients identify and adjust cognitive and behavioural patterns (i.e., schemas) that drive narcissistic traits. Narcissistic schemas, such as an inflated sense of self-importance, are enduring beliefs that develop early in life. This approach is especially useful for those who do not respond well to standard cognitive therapies.[3]
There are no medications currently available to treat personality disorders like NPD. However, many NPD patients benefit from the use of medications (e.g., antidepressants) to manage symptoms such as anxiety and depression.
In addition to treating those with NPD, psychologists play a critical role in supporting individuals affected by narcissistic behaviours, such as family members or friends. Psychoeducation can help these individuals understand the complexities of narcissism, set healthy boundaries, and develop effective coping strategies.
Psychologists can also continue to conduct research on narcissism to further our understanding and improve treatment approaches. By studying the underlying mechanisms and various expressions of narcissism, psychologists can refine existing therapeutic methods and develop new, evidence-based interventions tailored to individuals’ needs.
You can consult with a registered psychologist to find out if psychological interventions might be of help to you. Provincial, territorial, and some municipal associations of psychology may make available a referral list of practicing psychologists that can be searched for appropriate services. For the names and coordinates of provincial and territorial associations of psychology, go to https://cpa.ca/public/whatisapsychologist/PTassociations/.
This fact sheet has been prepared for the Canadian Psychological Association by Erin Vine, MA.
My 3 Favorites:"Multitasking doesn't make you efficient. It actually lowers your IQ temporarily. Your brain isn't built to juggle tasks simultaneously. Each switch drains focus, dropping your mental sharpness to the level of someone, who just pulled an allnighter."
"Compliments release more dopamine than, money for many people. Validation lights up reward-circuits faster than cash. The human heart still values recognition over riches."
The way you treat others reveals more about you than about them. Every action is a mirror. Kindness or cruelty says less about the world and more about the soul you're carrying."
Forget the professional diagnoses and the complexities, we all know he's a Psychopath ๐คฌ‼Perfect for all the Sociopaths, Narcissists and Psychopaths, not to mention the MAGA Maggots to Worship, Follow, and express HATE๐คฌ‼
Declare “My sensitivity is my superpower.” "Your journey from wounded to sovereign healer is not just personal—it contributes to collective healing. Each empath who integrates their gift clears the path for countless others."ers.
๐๐๐️✨Well, I must really be rare and special, just like Mom and Dad told me. I'm an HSP and highly Empathic. Something that blows me up is others with no empathy, no integrity, no showing of Love, no understanding, or just Narcissists Sociopaths and Psychopaths with high levels of Neuroticisms & Crazy, they give me a constant mental illness.
I may have mental and physical conditions, but I have Empathy, integrity and SO MUCH LOVE TO SHARE... Sam,,, I love you. There I've said it. ๐๐๐️✨I use my HSP traits just to stay away from Danger. The danger of people, Narcissists, and Dum Dums. I'm not an expert or a drama queen, but I've always been a Gay Jew, and an HSP, but now I am a result of Narcissistic Abuse, and Losing the Love of my Life 8 years ago.
I will continue to say I'm an Empath, because the name alone tells people they could be lacking empathy so while talking to me, they'll try to at least sympathise. Okay sorry I wrote to much. But, I write in Perfect Love & Perfect Trust. ๐
That was my feelings and comment about it without sounding like I was criticizing or anything negative. It bothered me yet, inspired me to get back to the writing on another page one of these days. I'd like to address many of the things he has taken to account, and many of the things about me,, and others like me, that he never took to account. He can't take to account or even address me or others like me, because he's not like us. We are special.
We give to others what others can not give to anyone, not even to themselves. Don't let what he said to you, bother you, if it bothers you. That video is not meant to inspire you or uplift you, or heal you in anyway. It's meant to inform you of what was researched and printed way way long long ago.
It's not trivial, it explains many people's toxic behavior towards others if you think about it. We are HSP Empaths, but other HSPs might not be Empaths, they may just be Narcissist, or Sociopath, or borderline or Psychopath.
Without a person being Empathic & Loving, caring and giving all the time; or an eye to distinguish the difference between us and them, or written research and facts about the difference, I think all the negative he was saying and quoting, did not factor in completely.
There are always exceptions, and at least I am one of them, but he should know that there are exceptions, like the exception that someone would know more or know better, about how there should be the word Empaths. We may be negative at times but we impact ourselves negatively, as we always positively help others.
We're not like everyone else, we deserve the label Empaths. We need that label because we are not individuals who consistently engage in harmful, unethical, immoral and selfish behaviors that negatively impact others or society.
By negative I mean, all the negatives belonging to the Narcissist, or Sociopath, or borderline or Psychopath. He just lumped HSP together with them like we are as bad as them. When they suffer their mental or physical conditions, they remain the negative terrible people we can't stand, while we suffer and remain beautiful people I wish I knew more of.
My two sisters can be HSP and all the negative that he talks about, but I will never be like them. I have always been Loving, giving, caring, sensitive, and respectful, while they have not been. I give people grace and time and time again to change their disgusting behaviors. They give people time to fall for their disgusting manipulations. So let's take them for example.
They hurt others without remorse, they don't take accountability for their negative actions (now or in the past), they can't feel empathy and they can't show it, they don't know how to show true love, true care, true integrity, clean and just morals, or even just support. Everything is about them, at all times as they disregard what you say when you say it. They don't know how to, not, think about themselves.
That's why he shouldn't say things like all HSP suffer these conditions (mentally & physically) resulting in ways and manners similarly like the Narcissist, or Sociopath, or borderline or Psychopath do. Nope sorry, wrong. There's nothing similar.
We suffer from the conditions yes, but we suffer differently. While they suffer constantly from a life of self-sabotages and burnt bridges for instance, they stay the same way they are, just maybe get worse. We don't turn into a Narcissist, or Sociopath, or borderline or Psychopath, we are the same beautiful understanding loving and giving people.
Maybe a dumdum would become like them, but an HSP who is an Empath, doesn't. Thus we Empathic people (people who need a name or label to call our own), can remain the same helpful and caring (not to mention polite & respectful) people we already are, whether we have mental and physical conditions or not.
We don't hurt people on purpose, we don't blame others, we don't disregard people's feelings or ethical and moral situations. We also don't force people to do things they don't want to do, or lie to others for us. We have Love in our hearts, and it's always there.
I didn't appreciate his careless dismissive attitude towards Empaths, telling everyone that there are no Empaths. How about there are, but the name isn't written in stone, like all the facts and figures he was telling us does. Or simply that it makes sense to have that word.
I don't appreciate when people talk while disregarding, me at the least. I may be special but there are more like me, I know this. And when you disregard me, you're disregarding others like me. Others that I love
I'm not a self styled professional or even a thin skinned person, but I am wired differently. He began by saying "people, persons with high sensitivity were more likely to experience mental health issues including anxiety and depression" which yes I agree with.
I basically suffer from alot of the things he mentioned in the rest of the video but I don't suffer the same one=sided selfish and publically harmful way like a Narcissist is suffering.
However he goes on to say "In other words if you're highly sensitive, you're more likely to be anxious or depressed, than if you're not sensitive, like me,,". Then he chuckles, like a narcissist would as they show apathy to others in a difficult situation.
And therein lies one of his problems right at the beginning, with himself and everything he's saying about me (like I said, I was trying to see if it was about me). If someone is going to talk about me being an HSP, but they are not, then it becomes a video from a non-sensitive person, for sensitive people. Like millionaire advice from a non-millionaire.
It's a video from an Apathetic person, about Highly Empathetic or Empathic people that NEED to be called Empaths, because everyone has abused us with their Apathetic responses and viewpoints.
To me it's just another video about a different kind of toxic people, people who are Apathetic but highly sensitive when it comes to themselves. He doesn't empathise, and he wouldn't sympathise. There is no way for him to reference from his own experience of being an empathetic HSP. So there's no way that he would see what I would see.
Now of course what he is saying is the written truth and facts, but they lay on the shoulders of his and others, not me, I have enough on my own shoulders. There are so many things I wish I could address from his videos, but I don't want to write so much when I don't have a whole page for this issue, of His Video vs Empaths and I.
I have anxiety and depression, off course I am suffering from mental and physical conditions, it's called victim of constant abuse to people like me whom are HSP and empathetic, as opposed to those who are not empathetic but highly sensitive and suffering, hurting people at the same time with their apathy.
To him there's no such thing as Empaths, so just call me HEP for being highly empathic. Or call me HLP, for being highly Loving. I want to go on about what he's saying and the difference between myself and others, but I'm afraid once again, someone has brought me to (as he puts it) an over-reactive feeling of arousal , with his video. There is much to say, for there much difference.
While having the mental and physical conditions that he mentions, I only have toxic behavior towards myself. I still feel deeply for others, not from the outside, but from both outside and inside. I don't need treatment, I need to only have other Empathic HSPs around, at least as my support group of close friends, who possess Empathy, Love, Spirituality and a Light knowone can see but we.
Now this is getting way to long without being on it's own page, so one day I will place it on a page, and continue through the whole video. One day. Until then please visit often as I continue my regular publishing, and enjoy all the other videos I place here. Thank you. I love you and talk to you later.
