𝒩𝑜𝒷𝑜𝒹𝓎 𝒞𝒶𝓇𝑒𝓈 𝒰𝓃𝓉𝒾𝓁 𝒴𝑜𝓊 𝒟𝒾𝑒

 𝒩𝑜𝒷𝑜𝒹𝓎 𝒞𝒶𝓇𝑒𝓈 𝒰𝓃𝓉𝒾𝓁 𝒴𝑜𝓊 𝒟𝒾𝑒

𝐼'𝓂 𝒞𝒽𝑜𝑜𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒫𝑒𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝒯𝑜𝒹𝒶𝓎

𝐼'𝓂 𝒞𝒽𝑜𝑜𝓈𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒫𝑒𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝒯𝑜𝒹𝒶𝓎

We give them a hard time?

Narcissists and Narcissistic people think we give them a hard time, 
doesn't that make you crazy? 

         It makes me nuts when after causing me a lot of stress and anxiety (I'm always completely frazzled when people like this are here); with reacting to their stupid comments; criticisms, interruptions, questions, ignorant accusations, backwards and upside down expressions and more (while tired and hungry with a hurting foot and back), they say to me "you give me a hard time".

         Well victims of narcissism, do we give them a hard time? Yes, we should, because they need to know how to be, when they're with us at least. If they don't want a hard time, they should shut up and listen most of the time. Hearing and considering change in their character,  for the good of all while harming none of course, but they can only worry about themselves, so the good of all doesn't matter to them.

         If they don't want a hard time with you, they should stop giving you a hard time. I have this new person in my life that gives me a hard time on every visit. He visits me for 10 - 20 minutes when he comes over, 2 or 3 times a week while or after his work. It's a narcissistic person, just ignorant of that fact and all the facts about Narcissism, and how it all bothers or hurts everyone he come in contact with.

         He tries to teach his children how empathy is good, but doesn't show empathy when he should. He tries to advise his children how being kind and nice and polite is good etiquette that you need, yet shows a lack of etiquette & grace most of the time. 

         He says he's not like that, he doesn't do empathy and etiquette and sensitivity and bla bla bla, he's too old bla BLA BLA. He wants to teach the kids how it's good to to meet people with empathy, and to give empathy back, and that he's not like that, but wants them to have people in their life not like him.

         Good, but terrible, so I wanna help him. And then,,  "why do you feed the animals Ari when they're wild animals?" You make them lazy. AND "Why don't you just keep living here," (while I need to move asap, waiting for a buyer), "you just have to make it work." 

"NO NARCISSIST, I NEED TO MAKE YOU WORK. 
JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP!" IS WHAT I WANNA SAY NOW. 

         He may respect his own family, but he's still the same to them. If he's unrespectful to you, then he's unrespectful to them. Narcissists weather malignant or outrageous, they don't see this, but their family sees it, and keeps it a secret. 

         Cause without knowing about Narcissism & gradual abuse, they don't know the power of Empathy & gradual healing. They think it's a bunch of issues bothering them with the narcissist, but it's only one issue,, Narcissism and how they won't make any effort to change.

         So, I responded to his 1 sentence email today. Ya I got an email from him with words, after he went home and thought of everything I said. Just kidding he thought about nothing but himself, saying to me "You give me a hard time today". Not sorry about today; not thank you for caring about me today, not i love the gifts you gave me, not I wanna be a better person for my kids will you help me?. Nothing, just "you gave me a hard time today". 

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         So I responded, and before reading my response, grab your drink or snack cause it's a big one. Hopefully it'll lift you to a place of confirmation and power to take back control of yourself, back from the narcissistic friend or family surrender to their narcissism. 

         Obviously no-contact is the best, for those suffering, but I've been suffering for so long, i'm now desperate for connection & communication of any kind, with anyone older than 55, even though their taking advantage of me and my beautiful loving empathetically sensitive and giving nature.

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"Ari you gave me a hard time today (sad emoji). 

You say that, but after you gave Me, a hard time. It's when I give you advice on being a good person, after behaving like a bad one, that you say I give you a hard time. Cause it's hard for you I know. 

You see my reaction and you can't believe it, but it's true and you should respect it but you don't. 

If you did, you would not think of YOU YOU YOU and say I gave YOU a hard time, you would think of me, and say "sorry I give you a hard time". 

I deserve a hug, but not that? 

If I can't stop you, advise you, and help you, then I let you,, continue to abuse people this way. I will let you if you want, but you won't be able to abuse me with 10 minutes in a 20 minute visit again.

Yes it's abuse after I prepare for your visit with special gifts and Cuisine for you; and you're using reverse psychology, where you're projecting onto others your badness - with me?.

AND you see you make me crazy 1st, because you see you make me spend the whole time defending and explaining myself to you, interrupting me alot.. 

That's anxiety ridden narcissistic reactionary abuse. You're abusing me and making me suffer alone with my own feelings inside. You do this to others as well, with this way of you I'm talking about.

 For your victims that you treat badly; when they let it all out through frantic emotional anxiety, that's the result of the abuse part,, and then telling them they gave you a hard time?, while seeing how you gave them a hard time is your goodbye? That's your respect for them?

Nothing I say that is constructive criticism penetrates into the part of your brain that you say has respect for me? 

You see how you can appear fake and narcissistic? Selfish, unaware, not smart, just a clown, a fool? Is that what you want in Canada?  

Is that your "thank you for everything"?. It's fucked up, which makes you appear fucked up to others. You turn it all around and say I gave you a hard time? .

That's called a silent DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Offender), but easily put: Self Projection,, and people like me can see you do that. We know you're projecting, because you're a hard person giving a hard time to people, and not stopping. 

You must stop, and only I can help you, but I won't if you wont try to stop. And if you don't stop, is it pleasurable to hurt me? 

Cause if so, you do this to everyone and I don't like it. Neither does your wife, your daughter and your son. 

If you ask me for advice with them, but you consider my criticism of you a hard time, then I can't give you advice, because I have to point out your badness. 

You're a cutie pie mister, but you're narcissistically bad & crazy & hyperactive & more that makes you look like a freak.

Traits and beliefs of Manners, Respect, Etiquette, Morals, Integrity and connecting with good people (to say the least) are an integral part of Good People's Rules of normality. 

To live as a good person, you must act at least acceptable via these embedded traits and beliefs. Not like my narcissistic siblings, as you remind me of them while I'm with you (which is red flag after red flag). And not like Trump who shows all the time all the traits of a disgusting human piece of shit Narcissist. 

You could have said to me, "Thank you for all that", "I will try to remember". and wow what a nice tray of treats you made me". 

You can't say you respect me, and act without respect, it's not believable (as is a hug from a man who doesn't hug), people will not believe you, if they don't already.

YOU GAVE ME A HARD TIME YESTERDAY, I GAVE YOU MY REACTION TO YOUR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR WITH ME. Maybe you can start with remembering that.

WORDS, ACCUSATIONS, TESTS AND INTERRUPTIONS AT EVERY VISIT IS ABUSE. KNOW THIS, PONDER ON IT, AND MAKE SOME DEDICATED CHANGES.

(keep this email to help you fucking remember mister)

I'll help you only if you let me.

Love ari

PS: Have a great day off.

ঔৣ This symbol is anti-Narcissist.

 This " ঔৣ "  is a symbol i've been using with love, so I wanted to know more about it. I asked my Bing Search: "This " ঔৣ "  is a symbol i've been using with love, i hope it doesn't mean something negative?"

It came back with the image below on another linked page, but I took it and I edited, at an online editing place, that I've used for as long as I've been online,, after it told me this;

"The symbol you've been using with love is heart, which is widely recognized as a symbol of love and affection across various cultures. Hearts are often associated with strong emotions and are commonly used to express love and admiration. While the specific symbol you mentioned is not explicitly identified, it likely refers to the heart, which is universally understood as a symbol of love."

and it's when I do stuff like this, that brings me back to reality, that I'm not the crazy one, and i'm not the narcissist, THEY ARE. And they are freaks, they just don't realize they appear as one. Until they meet someone like me that tells them they do. If I don't tell them ahead of time that they sound like a fool. 

When I saw the picture above, I thought to myself "self I thought" you gotta tell your narcissistically abused victims that read your blog, how making something artfull, helps to heal the soulfull.

Art will always set my negative emotions free from being bottled up in me, while music always lets me be. In perfect love and perfect trust, Empathy Is the Key. For the good of all harming none, so mote it be. Ps. Can you recite that with me?

🌈❣️🌹🌺

"𝐔𝐍𝐁𝐄𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐕𝐀𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐍𝐀𝐑𝐂𝐈𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐒𝐓"

 "𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐔𝐍𝐁𝐄𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐕𝐀𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐍𝐀𝐑𝐂𝐈𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐒𝐓 

WHO 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐂𝐇𝐀𝐍𝐆𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐖𝐎𝐑𝐋𝐃." 

𝐖𝐄 𝐌𝐔𝐒𝐓 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒.